I know I’ve written on here before about how sometimes your weight doesn’t change with age, but your mentality does. As a part of my rant, I thought I would always have a problem with black men in relation to my small frame, but it’s always that one person who can prove a person wrong. I met a guy from my past (high school) at an event and we got the chance to chat briefly. We went about our seperate ways, but he contacted me via social media and wanted to go to lunch/keep in touch. We exchanged numbers and it has been a little more than a month since we’ve been talking. He is very attractive, very much my type lol, great personality, educated…the list could go on and on, but most of all he likes me physically just as much as he like my mind, personality, and character. Not just a cute face and my smile, but everything. I emphasize that because I havent had the oppurtunity to enjoy that aspect from majority of the guys I’ve dated. He knows my insecurity in regards to my size, but he thinks I’m crazy to feel like that. He actually made a statement on the phone one night saying that I have curves. I was speechless!!! Especially when anyone I know tease me about how I have no ass, mosquito bites (small breasts), no hips, etc. I had to say myself, “what curves?”. He even proceeded to answer my question saying, “Yeah you don’t have big assets, but I do see you with some lil curves.” I’m writing this to prove to all my petite/skinny girls and women that there is someone for everybody. I’m still in disbelief that this just happened myself, but I really felt in the past that I had to change myself and work nonstop to gain weight to get the attention, compliments, and possibly love I deserved. The moment I decided to quit giving in to the notion that I have to be thick/curvy to be appreciated, someone noticed me for the beauty I already possesed. I don’t know if me and this guy will go far or not, but it’s been like a dream everyday so far.
My parents divorced 2 years ago, and it was very stressful for me. I gained some weight, but not a ton. I have always been thin, and even then I was definately not overweight. That same year, I had “Mrs. B” as homeroom. Flash forward 2 years, I have slimmed down and am as thin as ever. I also have Mrs. B again for English. One day, she randomly mentions ” how thin” I have become, and goeas as far as to suggest I have an eating disorder and emotional problems! I assure you, I have none! I sit there shocked, and my best friend asks her if it is a crime for me to be thin. Mrs. B says no, she just PREFFERRED ME CHUBBIER! She told the rest of the class to make sure I was still eating, then dismissed us. Wtf.
Submitted by bookworm667
I just want to say thank you for this blog! Not enough people realize that being skinny isn’t easy like people think it is. We get accused of having eating disorders all the time just by a glance. When in reality half the time we eat more than they eat in a week. People automatically have something against you just because you’re skinny. Not to mention there are millions of posts all over the internet where when they are raising up and praising larger women they are calling thin people ugly and disgusting. IT IS NOT OKAY TO PUT DOWN ONE BODY SHAPE WHILE HAILING ANOTHER. I fully support there being campaigns to make people feel beautiful about their bodies, but don’t put down someone else in the process. EVERYONE deserves to feel beautiful about themselves. I must also say this and I hope it does not offend anyone in anyway. It is much harder for people like us, the naturally skinny ones, to gain weight than it is for most, not all, people to lose weight. Another thing is people complaining that stores never have their sizes. I don’t understand that because where i am stores always have bigger sizes but finding stuff to fit me is nearly impossible. Especially with something like a prom dress. Both years I have gown to prom I have had to settle simply because something fit. Do you know how many skinny jokes I get in a week? Do you know how many times people have made jokes about what I’m gonna look like when I’m pregnant? That I’m just gonna fall over or break in half? That’s gonna make me feel wonderful about myself when I get pregnant. And these people don’t do it in a mean way but they do it. If people made jokes about anyone’s weight but a skinny person’s they would be considered an asshole, but because we are thin, because people think we don’t have problems, it is completely acceptable. Another thing I can’t understand is why people say guy’s like skinny girls? No they don’t. Guys these days like a a girl with ass and tits and most of us that are naturally skinny don’t have that. Guys won’t even give a second look to girls without one of the two half the time. Now I am completely comfortable with my body, and I can’t say that I am that insecure. But there are a lot of skinny people who are because of these things, and they can not do anything about it because no matter how hard they try they are still skinny. Just because we are skinny does not mean we do not have problems. Just because we are skinny does not mean we are not insecure. That everyone thinks we are beautiful. That everyone loves us. In today’s society a lot of the time it means the opposite. I didn’t even mean to go into all of this, i just started a rant. Really I just wanted to say thank you so much for running this blog, for helping to spread the word that skinny people have problems too, and helping other people like us know that we are not alone and there are others who understand.
When a (male) friend tells you that “boys don’t like skinny girls” and then about two weeks later asks you “what it’s like being so skinny and thin”
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Its rude to say “damn you’re skinny” especially with a disgusted face. AND THEN had the nerve to say its a compliment. Wait. Did i miss something?? NEVER ever EVER!!!!! say that is a compliment. Not when you twist up your face like that. Fix your face and try again, ho.
And if a skinny girl vents about being teased about her weight NEVER say “They’re just jealous, because they want to be thin.” Umm no. We are not convinced of this, and it doesn’t undo the damage.
hey, thanks! for awhile I got so overwhelmed I wanted to give it to someone else but couldnt figure out how you’re supposed to… but I’ve gotten used to it now and enjoy it. we need this blog!
Submitted by spoonfullofhiddles: This blog has made me even more angry with the world than I previously was. I’m not a skinny girl and almost none of the women in my family are skinny either so I don’t think I’ve ever witnessed these prejudices in my everyday life. But GOOD GRIEF!!!!!! WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH PEOPLE?!?!?!? Especially doctors that introduce themselves and immediately ask you if you are anorexic and people that force you to eat. If people took away my food for being big like they force it on yall, I would cry. Real talk. And I’m actually fairly comfortable with my weight but if people talked about it every fuckin day like the people in these stories……there would be a murder spree goin on in my state. I applaud all of you for not being in prison for being incapable of handling the ignorance. I can’t even imagine.
I’m an independent dancer and am about to launch a new solo work about body image, based on my own experiences after years of being bullied because I’m naturally thin. After my public launch next month I’ll be touring the show to high schools in Adelaide, South Australia, and running workshops to encourage students to treat themselves and their peers with more respect. The aim is to eventually tour the work internationally, or at least to release footage of the work so that I can help as many people as possible.
I’m also compiling a list of resources on my website, and would love for anyone with suggestions of books, websites or articles to get in touch so that I can make sure that no matter what body image issue people are experiencing, they’re able to find something that will help.
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I know this sounds mean, but I get really ANNOYED when girls who are not skinny complain about their weight. They have nothing to complain about. They have support groups EVERYWHERE! They have 99.9% of the entire male population saying things like “I prefer girls with meat on them not sticks” or “Meat is for the men bones is for the dogs” etc. then they also have the majority of women supporting them like “Oh don’t worry you have the body of a REAL WOMAN. You have lovely curves, full body and voluptuous. Sooo much better than being a stick/beanpole”. There was this one girl I knew who used to complain constantly about being ‘curvy’ and was desperate to be thin, I felt like rolling my eyes. People always used to say to her “Oh don’t worry men only like REAL fuller women they don’t like thin girls”. Ughhhh! YOU HAVE SO MUCH SUPPORT LARGER GIRLS, BUT US THIN GIRLS GET SO MUCH SH-T FROM PRACTICALLY ALL MEN AND MAJORITY OF WOMEN (‘REAL WOMEN’ THEY LIKE TO CALL THEMSELVES). SO TECHNICALLY, WE GET STICK FROM PRETTY MUCH EVERYBODY EXCEPT VERY FEW GUYS AND THIN GIRLS. WHAT THE HECK DO YOU HAVE TO COMPLAIN ABOUT!!!! YOU DON’T GET AS MUCH STICK AS US THIN GIRLS DO, NOT EVEN CLOSE!!
I eat food like every one else. When I eat I lose weight . That is NOT what I like to know! Peole ask me if I eat . I say yes. Then they make me eat so much I gett sick and have to go home from school. I come back and they say “HA!! U throw up right after u eat, that’s why!!!” I’m like ” WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!!!!!! ” I’m asked if I have a stomach problem. My problem is I do . I want to know how to get people to stop making me eat more than humanely possible to get me to prove I’m in love with eating food when I want it. I also blame school food.